6 Ways to be a good listener
Lessons I'm learning about listening better to others from the book 'The Peacemaker' by Ken Sande.
Listening doesn't come natural for any of us.
me admit that this subject goes way over my head, and that I'm not smart enough to give advice on how to deal with others in this issue, when sometimes I'm not even smart enough to deal with my own issues.
Because of this, this next section will focus on some lesson I'm learning from a real professional in
Gas logic is a deep complex issue of the human condition. A person who realizes they have it and desires change has a lot of hope for growing and developing into a healthy person.
People who are blind to their toxic thoughts, feelings and behaviors will be more prone to stay where they are, probably for the rest of their life without a miracle happening.
The complexity of trying to challenge someone with gas logic is that they may believe you are trying to talk them out of their perception of reality which can be interpreted as Gaslighting. Gaslighting a form of using psychological methods on someone to get them to question their own sanity or powers of reasoning and is manipulative in nature.
Of course challenging someone with gas logic is not the same as gaslighting them, but someone who is emotionally, mentally and spiritually unhealthy can deflect taking responsibility by using the gaslighting card.
So how do we helpfully challenge someone who obviously struggles with gas logic?
First, I think it's important to talk in terms of "attempts" not "achievements". Attempts are efforts where we don't take responsibility for the outcome. Achievements are when we try changing a person for them, which no one can do.
Second, there are five efforts/attempts we can make when we believe someone needs help addressing their gas logic. These attempts are a recipe of advice I read from two books
1. Surrender the person to God
2.